"I think it's your spotlight."
"The limits of my language are the limits of my world." - L. Wittgenstein
The Fundamental Theorem of Decision Making:
You should judge a decision by the process and not by the outcome.
"Do we have the right data? Are we too spotlighted on what's here in front of us?"
Beware Your Unknown-Knowns!
"Are you seeing just what you'd like to see?"
"If you thought I was a jerk in the first five minutes, you still think that now.
If you thought I was charming, you still think that now."
Is it real or just a cinnamon roll?
The Point: It depends on how you look at it.
"What percentage of housework do you do?"
"Losses hurt more than gains feel good."
"I think we might be too anchored."
Remember The Principle of Charity
"You're wearing a black shirt."
The Point: Pay Attention to People When You Talk With Them. Listen, notice, respond truthfully.
Be sure *not* to read the critical word out (i.e., "sleep" and "doctor") when reading the list.
Dance, Don't Fight.
That is, don't be captious in a discussion. Try to work with your colleagues to arrive at a good decision. Don't fight with each other; work together. Again, dance, don't fight.
Be sure to get multiple spotlights -- especially for big decisions.
Talk to people. Listen. And keep naming cows.
Here's a rap I wrote for my MBA students about "captious." Unfortunately, it contains many references to the MBA class I taught recently, many of which don't make sense outside of that context.